Has Social Media taken our real social life?

Human beings are by nature social creatures  and cannot live alone unlike some other species or animals in the world. We seek more and more opportunity to socialise and make use of every opportunity we get.

If we think from the beginning, we had friends and neighbors and buddies at school.  Later we start to enroll ourselves in sports or societies or some sort of a group and by the time we leave this earth we have made more than enough friends, enemies, admirers, and so on. All whom we have personally met!

However, for us to do all this we had to stay / visit one place to get to know more people and socialise with them.  Now almost everyone I know has a Facebook account. Before this what did we do?

We asked address to send post cards than for a phone number to chat. After that we wanted yahoo id to chat, then we passed through various other online communication tools and now we ask for facebook id to add them as friends and keep in touch. We even do that to people we met for the first time, even if we don’t ask just think how many times have you checked if a certain person was on facebook just after you met him/her? How many times did you go and look for an old friend of yours on facebook? How many new friends did you make on facebook? Do you know all about all the friends who are in your facebooks friends list?

Now move a little away from the internet. Do you know whats happening at your neighbours or a friends house who is not on your Facebook? Think of it. If your answer is no, doesn’t it mean you have been concentrating and developing networks on the net despite knowing exactly your social life is taken by the computer and its not a real social life? Suppose if you die today how many of your facebook friends would attend the funeral? Apart from that how many people that you know will attend are not in contact with you or you don’t know what there status is right now. Think of it. Think of the number of times you have written on others walls and now compare it with the number of times you have greeted, stopped to chat with people you know in real life!

In a way Have the Social Media and social sites have taken our real or actual social life. Can this really be a substitute? Can the person whom you chat and looking forward to chat or whom you have never met in person or for a certain degree that you will never meet be a person who is in your social circle? Are we or are we not looking to socialise in the wrong place?

Well having said the above, of course I do use facebook, twitter etc extensively and keep in touch with everyone there! But I ensure I keep in touch with those who are not in facebook but in real life too to ensure its balanced. I m not objecting or asking you to go and knock your neighbours door or write on their wall in the middle of the night but just a suggestion to think of it!

Just some thoughts to ponder!

Cheers,

Deen

P. S. This post would be edited further in due course, however as of now I have kept my #postaweek2011 in tact by posting this.

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A Beatable Challenge #PostAWeek2010

A Beatable Challenge is what another blogger‘s comments were.

The question; Is it beatable? Yes, of course, it is beatable, I m sure everyone can write at least a paragraph or two every week, at least that will ensure and remind us that we are still blogging and of course the total number of blog post and stories would have drastically increased by the end of 2011. We will also come across different view points and ideas during the course of the year which will give topics for others to write. Now the above said bloggers comment on my previous blog triggered this title.

Presently bloggers supporting each other to achieve this goal is something that shouldn’t phase off before the years phases off.

Its beatable in terms of blogging / writing / updating your blog. True but would everyone think of that in the same manner i. e. quantity of blog post or otherwise. Some will want to write quality blogs for which they might even do a research for a considerable amount of time and some will not post until otherwise they are happy with their contents. For those bloggers this task of #postaweek2011 or #postaday2011 would be even more challenging. Some bloggers, however, are more used to writing every thought that comes to their mind and they are good at it or possess an inborn skill, as for other it might have to be developed or keep searching for things and ideas to write about.

Now I would always opt to be the one who wants write something quality and interesting, however I m also very much flexible to ensure I stick to PostAWeek2011 (I know last week of this month I might not be able to hence I have personally bent the rules  as minimum 52 blogs by the end of this year). In a way directly or indirectly this challenge is going to refine me just like it would refine other bloggers. So for me this will be a training ground just like I m learning everything else including trying out new themes everyday :) etc.

How to blog every week?

  • Look for topics all around and be open to anything that comes to your mind.
  • Note down the respective topics (don’t trust your memory), jot it down, on the phone, on a separate password locked page on WordPress, in a 3×5 card which you carry in your wallet, some where.
  • When you sit down to write go through entire list and find the best topic you can write about at that given moment.
  • When you go through the entire list, your mind would be mapping few more thoughts and will be refining the existing thoughts, which one day will look the best topic for you to write
  • If you really don’t find a topic sit down with a cup of coffee/tea and list down few topics.
  • When you read a book look for those chapter titles which are more interesting and note that down.
  • Draft few topics at once when you find time and save it for a rainy day.
  • Refresh review and rework on the things you might have written something about few years back.
  • Give clues, tips, how to ideas
  • Always ask yourself Who What When Where How and Why.
  • Write about current news.
  • Write Thank you notes
  • Bless those who are suffering
  • Write about a cause you support, or why should we support?
  • Write about Pros and cons of the same thing
  • Write about Good things that happened and bad things that happened
  • Write about Good / Bad services you have received.
  • Write about the Jobs you have done including appreciated  or otherwise.
  • Be determined and committed.
  • Write about this idea ;)

As you see there are plenty of things to write about and I m making a separate list of topics to be written in future which I will share with all of you.

Good luck, Keep Blogging and don’t forget to follow me on twitter.

Happy Blogging Everyone

Mr. #PostAWeek2010 we are going to meet you head on and beat you with more than blog a week!!!!

Cheers,

Deen


Finally I have settled on a Theme (I think)

Well for the last whole week I have been trying to find the correct theme in my mind and apparently not getting what I want.

I m looking for a theme which would look decent, clean sheet, a business look and of course with which I can change over to a shared/self hosted service later on for some online business, affiliate marketing, advertising etc.  It should also give me (the laymen) to work around few things and placing pictures, tags, links, pages etc at exactly where I want. It’s pretty strange I have not come across a theme something like WYSIWYG editor. Or am I looking at the wrong place?

On a separate note, I m keen on jumping on the wagon with ‘PostAWeek2011’ group or if things work out fine ‘PostADay2011’ wagon.

The funniest thing is even before I start blogging in this I have written a blog just within a day at posterous.com as deensblog.posterous.com. about posterous itself. I m planning on edit or rewrite the blog in this.

Since I m very much interested in writing various subject which includes reviews, motivational thoughts (which can be read at my blog at blogspot), ideas, how to tips, social media, etc, I m looking for that perfect theme which would let me take my fans, subscribers, readers etc etc along with me to whichever the paid service I choose to move in due course.

Please do drop into this site/blog as often as you can to check on the latest. Like I said there will be something weekly with “postaweek2011” motivation. Finally I will get enough encouragements, ideas, comments and reviews to enhance the quality of the content of this blog.

Cheers

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